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Questions to ask yourself before writing your memoir

Editorial team · Updated October 9, 2026 · 2 min read

Questions to ask yourself are the first — and most honest — step for anyone thinking of recording their own story. Before any text, it is worth looking inward and rediscovering the moments that truly defined you. This is not about dates: it is about the turning points, the people and the choices that brought you here.

The people and moments that shaped you

  • Who was the most important person in your life, and why?
  • Which decision completely changed your path?
  • What is the happiest day you can remember?

What you have learned

  • What are you proudest of?
  • Which mistake taught you more than any success?
  • What would you tell the person you were at 20?

What you want to leave behind

  • Which values do you want to pass on to those who come after you?
  • How would you like to be remembered?

Answered honestly, these questions are the foundation to write the story of your life. If writing feels stuck, record audio — speaking is more natural, and it is the principle behind an autobiography without writing.

From reflection to the page

Once you have answered, you will realize you were not starting from scratch: you already had, inside you, the first chapters ready to become a book.

Your story does not have to represent the whole country

Living in Canada may be a central chapter or simply the place where you are recording these memories. Ask yourself which choices, people and communities you want to include, with no obligation to talk about immigration, success or overcoming hardship. Choose the language of each memory and note translations you want to review. Some answers can stay in a private file while you decide whether to include them in a shared version.

Further reading: Oral History Association — participants.